Bleh bleh bleh

Okay, if you have a teenage kid right about now, you probably heard Drac’s voice from Hotel Transylvania with that phrase. If you’re anything like me you’re probably in a phase of life where you’re both excited and also a little bit nervous that you are about to take your first step towards empty nesting. Empty Nesting, what a strange little phrase that elicits a plethora of emotion.

The last few months I’ve been thinking ahead of what my life will look like with just two people in a big house. What will I do, what will WE do? Will we eat out every night or eat at home more often? Will we do things together, what about with other couples? Will we develop new hobbies? What will life look like and WHEN WILL WE GET THOSE GRANDBABIES!? LOL.

The more I process things, the more I try to plan, the more my brain says, “bleh bleh bleh”. And no, it’s not my brain tell my self that I talk too much, instead, it’s my heart telling my brain I’m thinking too much. Does my brain EVER stop? No, not much, but too much consternation about the future won’t change anything. I am not the “main character” in my play as much as I try to be. This means I’m really not the one in control.

So what’s a man to do??!! Well, do what you can. Over the next few years as our “birds” start to spread their wings and fly it’s up to myself and my wife to choose each other from time to time. It doesn’t mean we’re going to spend all our waking time together, that’s just not us. If that’s you then be happy with it. My wife and I have always been super independent so we have to make sure we do things to keep us connected. I’m sure we’ll both pick up some new hobbies along the way. I’m sure we’ll do some house work (new furniture) now that the kids are gone and before grandkids arrive. Who knows, I may take up motorcycling again. I don’t know and neither does she, but we DO know that God provides and as long as my wife and I put Him first then everything else will work itself out.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been a “fly by the seat of my pants” kind of person so I do make plans and we will be intentional about our time as well as family and friend time, but it won’t keep me up at night. Instead, I’ll do my best every day to live in it instead of living in the past or the future.

So “bleh, bleh, bleh” your inner worry today. Find a way to ground yourself IN today. If your day isn’t worth being IN then hold on to the hope for tomorrow.

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